ARE YOU A SHOPAHOLIC?

Any of you who have watched the movie Confessions of a Shopaholic know exactly what I’m talking about. While the movie was hilarious it hit a lot of real points. Being a Shopaholic is a real life issue that a lot of us suffer from and we don’t even know it!

The movie was funny but real

The movie was funny but real

Have you ever sat on the floor of your room surrounded by clothes and shoes and things and wonder how on earth it all got there?

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This is definitely the face of satisfaction after an amazing day of shopping. All of a sudden the world is right again. lol.

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My face when I just can’t believe the price! I know a few women who have taken others down during a Harrods sale.

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But I digress. Back to the issue at hand! First of all what is a Shopaholic?

Also known as CBD, Compulsive Buying Disorder, it’s characterized by an obsession with shopping and buying behavior that can cause adverse consequences.

“CBD is experienced as an irresistible–uncontrollable urge, resulting in excessive, expensive and time-consuming retail activity [that is] typically prompted by negative affectivity” and results in “gross social, personal and/or financial difficulties”

 

What causes it?

  • Emotional deprivation in childhood
  • Inability to tolerate negative feelings
  • Need to fill an inner void
  • Excitement seeking
  • Approval seeking
  • Perfectionism
  • Genuinely impulsive and compulsive
  • Need to gain control

Types of Behaviors:

  • Compulsive shoppers – shop to distract feelings; “when the going gets tough, the tough go shopping”
  • Trophy shoppers – find the perfect accessory for outfits, etc. High class items will do.
  • Image shoppers – pick up tab, expensive cars, highly visible stuff
  • Bargain shoppers – buy stuff they don’t need just because it is a good deal. Out for the hunt.
  • Codependent shoppers – to gain love and approval
  • Bulimic Shoppers—buy and return, buy and return (similar to actual bulimia)
  • Collector Shoppers—have to have complete or many sets of objects or different colors of same style of clothing

I personally consider myself a shopaholic but not for all the reasons stated above. It’s a great way to relax and if you can afford it why not?! However I also take much delight in shopping for other people lol It easily satisfies my own urge to shop unnecessarily for myself. Life is short and if shopping makes you happy I believe it’s a hell of a lot better than drinking and drugging yourself to death. It’s one of the lesser evils when it comes to addictions as far as I’m concerned BUT if you do need serious help here is some handy advice from The Shulman Center for compulsive theft, spending and hoarding.

Suggestions for change:

  • Avoid people or places which tempt you to shop/spend
  • Cut up plastic; close charge accounts; rip up credit card offers and home equity applications
  • Make lists before going to the store; buy what you need only – call support people, take a trusted friend
  • Wait a good period of time before you make an impulsive purchase
  • Ask yourself: Do I need this or do I just want it?
  • Develop better ways to manage difficult emotions
  • Develop fun things to do to fill in your time better
  • Seek out specialized counseling, medication, support groups, read books about compulsive shopping/spending
  • Be aware of events that trigger urges to shop
  • Cancel magazine subscriptions or e-mail subscriptions and block certain Internet shopping sites or TV shopping channels.

 

So, Are you a shopaholic??

TAKE THE TEST HERE!

Happy Shopping Everyone!

Met Gala: What We Love

No doubt, as with every Hollywood event there’s good, there’s bad, and there’s just ugly.

Tonight, the fashion world gathers at the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s Costume Institute Gala, in celebration of Charles James, the American couturier whose work will be on display as part of the retrospective exhibit, Charles James: Beyond Fashion, at the newly renovated Anna Wintour Costume Center.
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Here are the ladies (and a few gents) that we are appreciating so far. We will update as we continue to fall in love!

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Karen Walker Eyewear: Visible

Designer Karen Walker has created a new campaign that involves the Kenyan Artisans who make her stylish eyewear. The 2014 Summer collection is called Visible:

“Karen Walker Visible is a new campaign that aims to highlight, celebrate and acknowledge. This season we’re working with the United Nations’ ITC Ethical Fashion Initiative to create work in community groups of micro-artisans located in the urban and rural areas of Kenya.”

 – Karen Walker

Click link above (Ethical Fashion Initiative) to read more about the campaign

She also used the people who make the sunglasses as her models for her look book which gives it a very cool, eclectic and afrocentric sort of look.

See behind the scenes footage and images at the lookbook shoot here

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The only aspect I don’t understand about the look book is why all the landscape photography looks so dreary. It seems like a little bit of an oxymoron. Any way, I love the collection. It’s very quirky and a lot of fun. You are sure to stand out in a crowd!

Shop the collection here 

MINT by Draya Michele :: vs :: Andrea Iyamah

When Draya Michele started her swimsuit line on her first season of Basketball Wives LA it was a collection of simple, matching Bikini tops & bottoms. Her collection today is quite expansive and A LOT more creative. People are saying that Draya owes her new found creativity to swimsuit designer Andrea Iyamah. While they have some similarities (particularly in the image below), I don’t believe that Draya completely stole her ideas from Andrea Iyamah. There may have been a little creative influence here and there and then of course we have to remember this is fashion! She’s making what people are demanding!

MINT & Andrea Iyamah's designs have been compared.

MINT & Andrea Iyamah’s designs have been compared.

 

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Heres Whats happening at Andrea Iyamah (Read Post on Andrea Iyamah & Winifred Taylor). It’s a little bit more edgy while Draya’s line is a little bit more risqué. Personally I love both and fully intend on having a draw full of both this summer!

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Andrea or Draya?? Thoughts??

Time to go bikini shopping!!

Tired of the classic matching top and bottom bikini? It’s time to refresh your swimwear after a long, cold, dreary winter. I have been loving the collections by Andrea Iyamah and recently found a new little gem… Winifred Taylor (see article on Fashionbombdaily.com). I’m really feeling the cut out pieces,all the extra ties and of course the bright colors! I’m really looking forward to summer… time to get back in the gym!

Angela Simmons, who is famous for rocking Nigerian designers regularly, loves Andrea Iyamah and has been spotted wearing several pieces from the designer.

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Here are a couple of pieces form her 2014 collection:

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I’m keeping me eye on Winifred Taylor and I’m looking forward to seeing how the designs evolve. Like Andrea Iyamah and other swimwear brands she’s on trend with the cut outs, halter necks and color. I really like the digital prints she’s used – it’s a little something different.

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